6 Examples of God’s Grace Everyday in Grief
Life’s journey is filled with sunshine and shadows, peaks of joy, and valleys of sorrow. Ever noticed those moments when, amid the chaos and pain, a gentle hand seems to guide you, offering a soft embrace when you need it the most? That’s God’s grace.
It’s like the warm sunlight breaking through a gloomy overcast sky, illuminating our path and warming our souls. Whether you’re navigating the tumultuous waters of grief or simply finding your way through the everyday challenges, God’s grace is ever-present, waiting to be felt and embraced.
Quite a few years ago, I learned the difference between being sad when someone dies and the gut-wrenching, heart-hurting, curl up in a ball unable to move kind of grief.
When my best friend died, I’d never experienced such extreme despair. For a time, I wasn’t positive I could get back up again.
Then, I began moving my physical body, but on the inside, I felt dead as well. Nothing made sense to me. No purpose seemed to matter.
I’d never heard anyone talk about that kind of grief, the kind that keeps you from living with any kind of joy, peace, or purpose.
My experience with tough times consisted of being sad and then moving on, forgetting (or at least putting in the back of my mind) what had upset me.
In grief, we can’t always forget, and so we learn to move forward and find joy and live productively again.
Until I recognized the grace of God in my life while grieving, I wasn’t sure I could make it. But He did extend His grace to me. For that, I am forever grateful.
Finding purpose, knowing joy again in the midst of our grief, comes when we willingly allow Christ to fill us. It can certainly take time to arrive at that point.
For a while, I closed myself off to it; I was just too angry, sad, and exhausted from worry and fear. To know God’s grace, we have to be open to His work in our lives even in our darkest times.
The Biblical Definition of Grace
When we delve into the scriptures, the concept of grace stands out as one of the foundational truths of the Christian faith. But what does the Bible specifically say about grace?
In its simplest form, the word “grace” in the Bible is translated from the Greek word “charis,” which means “favor, blessing, or kindness.” This grace is extended to us not because of any merit on our part, but purely because of God’s unconditional love.
Throughout the Old Testament, God’s grace was evident in His relationship with humanity. Take Noah, for example. Genesis 6:8 states, “But Noah found grace in the eyes of the Lord.” Noah wasn’t perfect, but God extended His grace, providing protection and a fresh start for humanity.
In the New Testament, the concept of grace deepens with the coming of Jesus Christ. Paul, in his letters, often speaks of grace as the unmerited favor of God made available through Jesus. Ephesians 2:8-9 is a hallmark passage: “For by grace you have been saved through faith, and that not of yourselves; it is the gift of God, not of works, lest anyone should boast.” Here, Paul underscores that grace is a gift, freely given, irrespective of our deeds.
Moreover, in Romans 11:6, Paul writes, “And if by grace, then it cannot be based on works; if it were, grace would no longer be grace.” This scripture further accentuates that grace is not something we earn but something bestowed upon us purely out of God’s love.
The biblical perspective of grace paints a picture of an all-loving God who, despite our imperfections and missteps, chooses to bless, favor, and love us. It’s a theme woven throughout the entirety of scripture, from the early days of creation to the prophetic revelations of the end times.
Understanding God’s Grace
So, what exactly is this grace we’re talking about? In the Christian context, grace is the unmerited favor of God. It’s a gift, freely given, never earned not even when we think it’s our good works that help us earn it. Imagine a friend offering you a present, not because it’s your birthday or you did something special, but simply because they cherish you.
That’s a glimpse of God’s grace. It’s His way of saying, “I love you, no matter what.”
Now, you might wonder how grace is different from mercy. While they’re closely intertwined, there’s a nuance. Mercy is God not giving us the punishment we deserve for our mistakes, while grace is Him blessing us despite those mistakes.
It’s like falling into a pit and someone not only helping you out but also handing you a pair of brand-new shoes to continue your journey.
In our daily lives, this grace manifests in countless ways. From the unexpected kindness of a stranger to the resilience we find within ourselves during trying times, God’s grace is the unseen force that uplifts and strengthens us.
It’s an invitation, not just to receive, but also to extend this grace to others. For in understanding and sharing God’s grace, we truly reflect His love and compassion.
The gift of grace is not the result of works or our own effort but instead is an undeserved favor, a free gift through the power of the Holy Spirit and not through our own strength.
We are a new creation in Jesus. God’s amazing grace is most evident to us through the love of Christ.
The Role of Jesus in Exemplifying Grace
The life of Jesus Christ is perhaps the most profound testament to God’s grace. From His birth to His crucifixion and resurrection, every moment was a demonstration of grace in action for human beings.
Reflect on the Sermon on the Mount, where Jesus speaks of love, forgiveness of sins, and blessings. Consider His interactions, like the one with the Samaritan woman at the well or His forgiveness extended to the very ones who crucified Him.
Through Jesus, we not only learn about grace but see a living, breathing example of it.
Experiencing Grace in Grief
Grief, with its overwhelming waves of sadness and loss, might seem like an unlikely place to find grace. Yet, it’s often in our deepest pain that God’s grace shines the brightest.
When sorrow engulfs you and tears blur your vision, remember that God’s grace is like a lighthouse, guiding you safely through the storm. It’s in the memories that bring a smile even through the tears, the unexpected moments of peace amidst the pain, and the strength to face another day.
Have you ever felt an inexplicable comfort during moments of despair? Or found solace in scriptures, songs, or the embrace of a loved one? That’s God’s grace at work.
As Psalm 34:18 reminds us, “The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.”
Grief might be a solitary journey, but you’re never truly alone. God’s grace ensures that there are hands to hold, shoulders to lean on, and hearts that understand.
Finding Grace in Everyday Moments Amidst Grief
Losing a loved one is an overwhelming experience, but even in the depths of despair, there are signs of God’s grace. These daily reminders can help the grieving heart find solace and hope.
The Comforting Embrace of Nature
Witnessing a sunrise, hearing the calming rustle of leaves, or feeling a gentle breeze on your face are subtle hints of God’s presence. Nature serves as a reminder that life, in all its forms, is a gift.
Unexpected Acts of Kindness
During times of sorrow, a simple gesture from a stranger or a comforting word from a friend can be a lifeline. Such acts demonstrate God’s love working through others.
Memories That Warm the Heart
Recalling fond memories or revisiting cherished moments with loved ones can be a source of strength. These memories are a testament to the love that remains, even in absence.
The Resilience of the Human Spirit
The ability to move forward, despite the pain, showcases God’s grace in action. Every step taken towards healing is a testament to the indomitable human spirit.
Community and Shared Grief
Finding a community, whether it’s a support group or a spiritual gathering, can be immensely healing. Sharing grief collectively allows for mutual understanding and comfort.
Music That Touches the Soul
Songs have a unique way of resonating with our emotions. A familiar tune or a moving lyric can evoke feelings of connection with the divine.
The Power of Prayer
In moments of despair, prayer offers a direct link to God. It provides an avenue to seek guidance, find comfort, and express gratitude for the grace that surrounds us.
God’s grace is ever-present, even during the most challenging times. By recognizing these everyday examples, one can find hope, strength, and solace amidst grief.
God’s Grace in Everyday Life
Beyond the profound moments of grief, God’s grace is intricately woven into the tapestry of our daily lives. It’s the unexpected laughter on a rough day, the friend who calls just when you need to talk, or the serendipitous events that remind you of the beauty of life.
When you wake up each morning, every breath you take, every step you make, is a testament to God’s grace in your Christian life.
Have you ever missed a bus only to bump into an old friend on the next one? Or stumbled upon a book that spoke directly to your current situation? These aren’t mere coincidences; they’re glimpses of God’s grace sprinkled throughout your day.
In the busyness of life, it’s easy to overlook these moments, but once you start recognizing them, you’ll see that God’s grace is everywhere. It’s in the gentle breeze, the song of a bird, the smile of a stranger. It’s a daily reminder that you are loved, cherished, and watched over.
Personal examples of God’s grace in everyday life:
Here are the ways I felt the gift of God and His grace throughout my grief journey:
1. Filling me with an incredible peace – this didn’t come easily. No, it’s not because Christ Jesus wasn’t there trying to get my attention so I could be filled with Divine love. Instead, my grief consumed me so much I wasn’t aware of it yet.
2. Providing proof of God’s existence in direct answers to my pleas.
3. Sending family and friends who provided love and support.
4. Giving me His Word to guide me and show me the way to true life. God’s Word became what I held on to every single day.
5. Showing me where others need help so I can know perspective and purpose. Working to feel the unconditional love God has for me for others helped me tremendously.
6. Driving me forward with hope. Hope, the most important of all in finding my way through grief – hope that God is real, that God’s promises are real, that life is not in vain, that there’s a reason, a purpose, and that my loved one is okay. Hope that I’ll be okay. Hope.
I wake up each morning thankful for God’s grace and for the ability to recognize and accept it. It took me a long time.
Practical Steps to Embrace God’s Grace
Embracing God’s grace isn’t just about recognizing it; it’s about actively seeking and welcoming it into our lives. Here’s how you can cultivate a deeper relationship with His grace:
- Daily Reflection: Set aside a few quiet moments each day to reflect on where you’ve seen or felt God’s grace. This could be in the form of a gratitude journal or a quiet prayer time.
- Stay Connected: Engage with scriptures, songs, or writings that emphasize God’s grace. Regularly attending church services or joining a small group can also strengthen your connection.
- Serve Others: Acts of service, whether big or small, allow us to both witness and be instruments of God’s grace. By helping others, you’ll often find you’re the one who feels blessed.
- Seek Guidance: When in doubt, turn to trusted spiritual leaders, friends, or mentors who can help you navigate your spiritual journey and point out the grace that might be eluding you.
- Share Your Stories: Sharing personal experiences of God’s grace can be uplifting for both the sharer and the listener. It serves as a reminder that we’re all part of this divine tapestry.
Overcoming Obstacles to Grace
At times, even when God’s grace is abundantly around us, obstacles in our heart and mind might prevent us from fully experiencing it. Here are some common barriers and ways to overcome them:
- Feelings of Unworthiness: Remember, God’s grace isn’t earned; it’s given freely. No matter your past or present, you are always worthy of His love and grace.
- Doubt and Skepticism: If you’re struggling with belief, seek out testimonies, scriptures, or conversations that can reignite your faith. It’s okay to question; sometimes, that’s how we grow.
- Busyness: Life’s hustle and bustle can sometimes drown out the subtle signs of God’s grace. Make it a priority to pause, breathe, and be present. You’ll be surprised at what you might have been missing.
- Isolation: Withdrawing or isolating oneself can create a barrier to experiencing God’s grace, which often comes through interactions with others. Reach out, join community groups, and allow others to be vessels of God’s grace for you.
- Holding onto Pain: Sometimes, past hurts can blind us to the grace present now. Seeking healing, whether through counseling, prayer, or conversations, can help clear the path to grace.
Bible verses to help us remember divine grace and how to celebrate the glory of God even during difficult times:
Old Testament:
- Psalm 23:4
- “Even though I walk through the darkest valley, I will fear no evil, for you are with me; your rod and your staff, they comfort me.”
- Nahum 1:7
- “The LORD is good, a refuge in times of trouble. He cares for those who trust in him.”
- Isaiah 41:10
- “So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.”
- Psalm 30:5
- “For his anger lasts only a moment, but his favor lasts a lifetime; weeping may stay for the night, but rejoicing comes in the morning.”
- Proverbs 3:34
- “He mocks proud mockers but shows favor to the humble and oppressed.”
New Testament:
- Ephesians 2:8-9
- “For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith—and this is not from yourselves, it is the gift of God—not by works, so that no one can boast.”
- 2 Corinthians 12:9
- “But he said to me, ‘My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.’ Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me.”
- Romans 5:8
- “But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.”
- Hebrews 4:16
- “Let us then approach God’s throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need.”
- 1 Peter 5:10
- “And the God of all grace, who called you to his eternal glory in Christ, after you have suffered a little while, will himself restore you and make you strong, firm, and steadfast.”
Final Thoughts
God’s grace is a profound and ever-present force, weaving its way through the highs and lows of our lives. It’s a gentle reminder of His unwavering love, a beacon of hope in the darkest of times, and a source of joy in the most mundane moments.
Whether you’re facing the depths of grief, navigating the challenges of daily life, or simply seeking a deeper connection with the Divine, know that God’s grace is always within reach. It’s an invitation to a life filled with love, compassion, and purpose.
As you journey on, may you continuously discover, embrace, and share the boundless grace that God so freely offers. In doing so, not only will you enrich your own life, but you’ll become a beacon of grace for others, reflecting the very essence of His love.
If you find yourself struggling, reach out – to God, to family, to friends, to strangers (email me if you don’t have anyone else to talk to! I’m not a therapist, but I’m a friend and can listen).
Despite what you may be feeling, never forget God will never ever leave you.
Related Posts (more of my feelings/experiences on grief):
Prayer and Scriptures for When You Need Permission to Grieve
7 Scriptures to Help Survive Grief
7 More Scriptures to Help Survive Grief
5 Ways to Help Someone Who is Grieving
How I Became Thankful in Grief
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I lost my grandmother two months ago. It was so sudden and took our family by surprise. She had an enlarged heart which caused her to have a hard time breathing. She truly was a loving person who had a big heart. Always praying and helping others. She had a calming presence about her that helped my own walk with God. Now that’s she’s gone, I’m finding myself search for God more. Anything to feel that calming presence. I know she is with God, but I keep asking myself why I didn’t listen to her. Why I didn’t have that conversation with her about when she passes like she was trying to. I wish I could hug her. I miss her terribly. She was my best friend.
Jenny, I am so sorry for the loss of your dear grandmother. Keep following and trusting God; it sounds like you will. I will be praying for you and all who love your grandmother. ~Julie
Please don’t be upset with me because I am grief stricken over the lose of my puppy. Someone took him!!! I have prayed so hard, posted hundreds of posters, stood on God’s words and promises. Yet nothing!! I don’t understand how this is glorifying God.
“Maxwell “ unconditionally loved me! Now that he is gone no one in this world loves me, no one. I understand that Maxwell is not a human being, but it feels like a part of me is gone. It is so hard to understand how God permitted this to happen and not give him back to me.
I’m so sorry for the loss of your sweet puppy! Our pets are definitely family! I will be praying!
My husband died from a heart attack 5 years ago – 4 months after my mother. It was a huge schock for me and our 2 sons. What amazed me, was that for a week after his death, I had this absolute desire to praise the Lord. In this devastating situation, the Lord sustained me by the praises out of my mouth and from His heart. Until today I know that joy of the Lord is my strenghth. Whenever I feel discouraged, sad, anxious – I praise His name and thank Him for His love. All my live to everyone in grief. I know the pain so well. But our Lord is faithful and will never leave or forsake you. He will send His angels to sustain you. I praise His holy Name.
Amen! I’m so sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing your faith here. Inspiring!
Thank you!! I’m practicing this myself. Praising Him whenever I feel sad, missing my son, anxious, scared, angry…I feel lost- can’t seem to get me footing down- wobbly- but definitely trying! I’ll continue to praise God. If I didn’t know God for myself I do not know where I’d be! My son is with Him. I’ll see them both one day. God promised and I’m holding Him to it!! ❤️
I lost my 20 year old son in a terrible car accident. A metal fence pole went through his neck. He was big and strong and handsome. All star ball player in school, avid outdoorsman. He was my pride and joy. He was my world. I saw him in the ER as he lay dying with the metal pole impaled through his neck. He bled to death. I am so lost and broken. I am a single mother with a 12 year old daughter. We have lots of love and support
But I am so broken. All I want is my baby back. I feel like my life is over. Only living for my little girl. I have always been a strong believer but find myself doubting God’s love. Sometimes even doubting his existence to let such a terrible thing happen to my good boy. Searching for strength and peace. Searching to regain my faith.
Oh, Lanette. I can’t even begin to imagine what you’re going through. I am so sorry about your precious son! I do understand feeling lost and doubting God’s existence. We wonder how He could let something like this happen and can’t imagine moving forward. It will be so slow and so hard. Please keep clinging to His Word. To His promises. His love is real. His promises are real. We can’t understand how and why He does things, but eternal life is REAL. I am praying for you for strength and peace. You’ll find it won’t all of a sudden happen, but when glimmers peek through, grab hold of them. And don’t get discouraged when the next day or even the next minute you lose them again. Keep searching for God, keep looking, keep hoping for peace. With all the love He has! ~Julie
Dec 6 I’ll be the 2nd anniversary of my 28 yr old daughters death. She was killed instantly in a car crash in mass. I was living in nc at the time.I sat sat in shock over it and I kept asking God why he took my daughter away. I heard him say to me Well I gave up my son too. I know that’s what helped me thru the grief. I am so terribly sorry for your loss of your precious son.
Alicia, I’m so sorry about your daughter. So terrible! Thank you for sharing your grief and how God has helped you! Praying for you! ~Julie
Thank you. It has been a very emotional time for me and my other 3 children.But God hasn’t forsaken me or forgotten me. One day I’ll see my girl again.
I am so sorry for your terrible loss. We lost our 30 y/o son last June in a car accident. We are devastated. I know your pain. It’s like my soul is slowly dieing. Losing a child is the most horrific thing that can happen to a human being. Hold on to your faith, it will help you through this tragedy. Believe with all your heart that we will be reunited again. Because without faith and hope how can we go on. God Bless 🙏
Thank you for your faith-filled words. I am so sorry for the loss of your dear son. I will keep you in my prayers! ~Love, Julie
In a 2 1/2 yr span of time I lost my uncle,mother,only brother, aunt and then my 27 yr old daughter. Then in a freak accident at work I fell off a machine and lost part of the feeling in my leg so I lost my job. I am a believer and I know the only reason I’m still here is God still has work for me to do.He is the reason I had the strength to endure the last 4 yrs. It’s only been 19 months since my daughters car wreck that left her then 8 yr old song without a Mom. It hasn’t been easy I still cry almost daily.But God keeps me going
Oh Alicia, I can not imagine all of that loss in such a short period of time. I am so sorry. Your faith inspires me. Keep looking to Him, and He will heal all. With love and prayers, Julie
My church family has been a huge support for my the only family I have left now is my older sister who lives 800 miles away. I still have 3 children that live with me and another grandson on the way. It’s a daily struggle but I’m too stubborn to give up yet. God’s got plans for me in his time. Not mine
My 27 year old son my only child died 10 months. He was a recovering addict but relasped and lost his life. I’ve never felt this kind of pain, its deep in my soul I’m a believer yet I haven’t felt any comfort from the Lord. My son was also a believer, actuality got baptized 3 years ago, but struggled so hard. I ask God everyday to let me know HE now has my son, if I know he’s with God I could accept this pain easier, but I hear & feel nothing, just sorrow & loneliness, why won’t God give a grieving mother a answer?
I am so sorry for your loss and pain. I can’t even imagine losing my son. I do believe God gives/will give you the answers you’re praying for. When I look back at my own experiences, I can see now how during the most devastating times in my grief, I wasn’t truly open to hearing from Him yet. Oh, I thought I was and I asked for it, but I needed to work through the worst of the pain in order to recognize the light and hope in Him. It didn’t happen all at once either and make everything better. Instead, I eventually got little glimpses of God in the midst of all my grief. They were enough to keep me searching. It took a long time. I wasn’t truly ready for a very long time. But God is constant and steady and loving and will let you have all the time you need, and He’ll be there always. You’ll start to recognize His voice and His touch through your pain. It won’t make all the pain go away right at once, though. Each person is different, and I am not trying to say that our experiences are the same. However, 10 months is not very long at all. Allow yourself to feel your grief. And keep looking to God even when you don’t feel or hear Him yet. Remember, too, to not only pray but be still and listen. It’s so hard in the beginning. I will pray for you. God bless you!
I really enjoyed the article, I loss my mother two years ago and it seems just like it was yesterday, sometimes I think the only thing that keeps me going is my son. Hopefully it will get better.
I’m so sorry for the loss of your mother. Two years really isn’t very long at all! It does get better, but it’s always difficult. You’ll have lots of ups and downs. Just remember to look to God. He really will provide peace and hope in His promise of eternal life. God bless you!
My daughter took her own life, my grief will never end
I am so sorry. My mother did the same. I agree that grief never ends. Over time, I have learned to hold tight to my faith and move forward with some purpose. It is always up and down. I will pray for you. Love, Julie
God used my grief over my father dying from cancer as a way to bring me back to Him. And because He brought me back into the fold, my whole family has come as well.
Absolutely! That’s how he works. I’m so sorry about your father. So thankful your faith is full!
Totally Agree! God is pretty perfect the way he plans everything out. I love God!
Definitely! Thanks for stopping by and sharing!
Beautifully written. God’s grace shines through at the most unexpected times.
Thank you, Mary. Yes, it surely does!