A Punch in the Nose? No! Not really…keep reading…
Okay, here you go. You get real me here. I mean the real, deep, down, dirty me. Not that I’m not real in all my posts. I am. But it’s time you know right off the bat that I’ve got some issues going on. At least I’m aware of them, right? I figure if I’m aware of them, I can work on making them better, and that’s a good thing. I’ll keep telling myself that anyway.
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Have you ever just wanted to punch someone? Right in the nose? I have. Like right now, a little bit. I told my husband I thought I’d write this blog post. His response, “Writing it would be cathartic but posting it could be felonious.” Once I got past the big words, I figured hey, I just won’t use any names. That’s always a good idea.
So this lady at work. Hmmmm. I struggle with her frequently. She’s smarmy. And snitty. She frequently treats me as if I don’t know or do what I’m supposed to.
That’s tough to deal with.
In a perfect world, I would go and talk to her and share my feelings and things would be hunky dory. In my real everyday world, however, that won’t work. I know because I tried it once. She peered at me, lips pressed tightly together, nodded, and never changed.
So today when she smarted off to me, I had this sudden urge to thrust my fist out and punch her right in the face. Told you I had issues. Fortunately, I can control them. Usually.
I don’t understand unpleasant people. Oh sure, I get having a bad day, but Every. Single. Day? Please.
Then, I think about me. I’m not perfect either. This very article proves that, doesn’t it? Because of my own imperfections, I figured I needed to write this, refer to it, and keep things in perspective. Perspective helps tons.
With faith and perspective, I can deal with difficult people in a positive way. With faith, I have these four things to help me carry on:
1. Not everyone knows God or if they do, they may not understand how to allow Him to lead their lives
I do understand, and so I must do better. Be better. Maya Angelou said it best, “When you know better, you do better.” I know better.
2. Everyone needs compassion, love that’s never failing (Hillsongs United – Mighty to Save lyrics)
Compassion belongs to all people, not just the ones we get along with. Unfailing love can come from me, especially when someone isn’t acting in accordance with God’s unfailing love.
3. We don’t really know what others are going through
There’s a whole backstory to each and every person. A difficult person’s behavior may be a result of their difficult life.
4. Others’ behavior does not reflect me unless I respond in kind
Frequently, I must remind myself that it’s not about me! If I am acting in love, responding in love, keeping up with my responsibilities, and otherwise doing the right thing, then I can’t take on someone else’s personality as a reflection of who I am.
Of course, I would never punch someone in the nose. Never in my life has punching been part of my coping skills. However, I don’t want to retaliate in any way – being hateful back, talking about her, etc. I’m not always good at this; I am human, stumbling through each day, each moment trying to listen and follow God and falling short time after time.
I will refer to this post when I need reminders!